FIGHT THE GOOD FIGHT!!!

What's a good fight? I use to think that all fights were bad. Now I know that all fights are not bad, only the ones that people use negative resources to battle with. Some negatives are bad words that attempt to crush or hurt someone, a physical fight is really bad! It is the lowest form of communication. It basically says, you have no control over your emotions, and that you are soarly afraid. Spite is another way of fighting someone, only this one is sort of done sneakily. It's when you do something or say something about someone behind their backs, knowing that they will eventually find out what was done or said. This is a cowardly act, and should not be the way of fighting a fight. Others resort to manipulation to fight back or to have their way. Most people who use manipulation to get back at others have done it for so long, they don't even realize that they do it.

Am I encouraging a fight? Yes in almost all instances YOU WILL HAVE TO FIGHT! (I Tim. 6:12)



You see there are forces out there that are trying to keep you from your destiny. Whether you believe in these forces or not, does not change the fact that they are working against you. When you take matters into your own hands by using one of the negative resources I mentioned earlier, you lose. God has designed for us to leave everything up to Him. He says he will trouble your trouble. (Deut. 32:35) He said that He would be with us in times of trouble (Ps. 91:15). so, we never have do anything to anyone who has wronged us. Our fight is not a physical one (2 Cor. 10:4), it is one that ought to be fought in the spirit realm, in prayer (Phil. 4:6), in a soft response, in forgiveness, in blessing that person even when they have cursed you (Rom. 12:14). By doing these things, you release God to move in the situation. When you retaliate in your own strength and negative abilities, you tie God's hand's and He can do nothing until you use the tools that He has given you to operate in.



Finally, THE FIGHT in areas of promotions or benefits that you are pursing. A move, a job, a car, a home, scholarships, appliances and things of that nature, ( all these things must be the will of God for your life - it can not be another person's possessions; i.e spouse) do your research, wait, and pray. Don't take no for an answer when someone says, "It can't be done!" unless God says no, you keep going, follow it through to the end, but always in the right attitude, with kindness, pursuing your goals. There are so many instances I have encountered where, had I taken the first person's response, I would have been cheated out of the blessings that were mine. I have literally hung up the phone and called back, only to get a new customer service rep who told me something that I wanted to hear and worked it out in my favor. Sometimes it's a timing issue. When the Holy Spirit says to do something, that is the time to ACT! When you move on His prompting, it will work out everytime. If it LOOKS like it is not working out, then wait a while and listen for His voice to speak, ask Him to tell you what to do, when to act, who to call, and He will lead you and guide you when you ask Him. He wants to be invited into your day. No matter what it looks like, pay no attention to what you SEE. The enemy wants you to think that it's not working and quit. He wants you to abandon the process. If you are impatient he will get you offended, and you will get OFF the process and END your pursuit.



Remember, fighting can be a good thing if you choose to make it positive. This life is a FIGHT whether you want to fight or not. Fighting with the right tools will insure that you get your desired results more often, than if you don't engage in battle. You see, fighting is a way of CHOOSING. If you do not choose, the result will be chosen for you. Why not choose what you want, than to be dealt something you do not want.

DADDY DAYCARE

Do we know why the crime rate is so high, and why teenage pregnancy numbers are so astronomical? Or maybe why homosexuality is so rampant, or why there is so much promiscuity amongst our married and single people? Well, I'm sure we can take a pretty good guess on why things are the way they are.

One of the main reasons is because of our absent fathers. Yeah, Yeah, I know you've heard this time and time again but, this time, I'd like to draw your attention to a reason that has rarely been discussed. That reason is our mothers. So many of our mothers are standing in the way of those fathers (notice I'm calling them fathers because they want to be there) who want to be active in the lives of their children. Face it, HE'S JUST NOT INTO YOU!!! Or maybe our mothers know this already and are trying to make him pay by using the innocent sweet children to get back at him. So so sad...

We women have to move pass these negative emotions and begin to love ourselves. Not allowing your children to spend time with their fathers is such robbery. I hear mothers express the love that they have for their children in word and deed all the time, but fail miserably in this area (Jon. 15:13). It is vital for a child to know their father, especially if he wants to be there, when so many don't. I'm sure there are countless amounts of studies that prove this, if you follow this type of stuff.

But, the underlying reason this issue exists is because of the breakdown of the family. The enemy has never wanted the family to thrive, ever since the garden of Eden. He has been jealous of the man and his wife, or anyone for that matter that is in a body suit. He has launched his best attack when he tries to convince women and men that they will find real love when they fornicate. Convinced of this they engage in the test drive, only to find out that it is nothing like lust said it would be. Now you're pregnant and you both decide to stay together and raise the child. Fast forward to the toddler stage, now the honeymoon is over and you guys hate each other because the relationship was built on the wrong foundation; lust (Gal. 5:16). So you both call it quits, but one of you really didn't want to, and the other has no clue (guy)that you are still hanging on. Guy moves on, girl doesn't. Sometimes girl/guy wants out, because she sabotages good things, because she/he does not think she/he deserves it. Then there's still the issue of the kid. Mother is bitter or resentful even if she is the one to break it off, and decides to be mean to the father who wants to love his child. Women can even be jealous of the love that a father shows his child, because they never received that kind of affection from their dad, so they are always arguing or creating situations just before the father is to pick up the child for visitation. Or instead of the nightly 'tuck in and pray' call, fathers get the voicemail for days or weeks on end(the cycle continues).

Mothers, STOP already, just STOP IT! You are only hurting your children. Yes, he is hurt, but the most damage is being done to your very own children. As parents we do not get a 'do over'. This is no dress rehearsal, this is it, you're in your scene and, the cameras in heaven are rolling. Your children love both parents equally and need both just as much as the other. Don't make them choose because they wont. Also decide not to let your children hear you speak ill of their father or mother, (Gal. 5:19-26) this makes them extremely sad and, may even create anxiety, and will show up in possible bed wetting, grinding the teeth at night, biting of nails, or some other form or, nervous habit.

Our world needs fathers to be involved with their children to stop the vicious cycle of crime, suicide, homosexuality, lesbianism, teenage pregnancy, divorce, and most of all SELFISHNESS. All of these actions are rooted in selfishness, and if we would act out of genuine love for our children, and allow them to have a relationship with their willing fathers, we will begin to turn things around, and replace the wrongs with more rights.

You see, the word FATHER = DESTINY whether you know him or not. If you know him and have a fairly good relationship, you may get to your desired destination in life alot quicker. If you hardly know and spend little time with him nurturing you, you could take the long way home. You may encounter some self esteem issues, and may tend to look for love in the wrong places like: gangs, pregnancy, drugs, premarital sex, crime, gender issues, unfruitful relationships, with both male and females, and the list could go on. You may be able to finish this list for me.

I have had my share of experiences and can say first hand what a difference an active father can make in the life of a child. You can not control what your adult children will do, but you can equip them with the right tools to make good lifelong decisions.