There seems to be a tremendous unawareness concerning this subject. People tend to do this without even realizing. It really is for so many, second nature. When I researched this topic, after having several people to do this to me in one day, it really got my attention. I began to first check myself concerning this. Then I was able to recognize that this was around from the garden days. Brother Adam, beat out Sister Eve on this one ( Gen. 3). In as early as chapter three of 'the beginning', God asked Adam where he was, of course He knew, but He wanted Adam to identify where he was spiritually and mentally for himself. Sort of like judging yourself daily. Well, Adam proceeded to skip around the subject with half truths, so God came in for the kill with a direct question based on Adam's response. Then, Adam proceeded to blamed Eve for having eaten the forbidden fruit, instead of covering her, thus introducing the 'spirit of division' (v.12). Then God began to converse with the woman, and she in turn blamed the serpent (v.13). No one here, but the serpent, was willing to take RESPONSIBILITY for their actions.
I am convinced that, if Adam and Eve had been united in saying "MY BAD-WE MESSED UP!" things might have turned out a bit different. I don't know how, but there's just something about confessing your sins (I Jon. 1:9) that is so liberating. Passing the blame has its roots in selfishness, which means we are proud or haughty when we operate in this type of behavior against others. This spirit of pride is so subtle and somewhat sneaky, so we have to be so careful not to try to preserve 'SELF' at the expense of trapping others. The word says that "God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble" (Jam. 4:6). So this tells me that the opposite of pride is humility. So, when others want to blame us, we ought to retaliate in humility, by not looking for a scapegoat.
When someone is pointing the finger at you, whether you are the blame or not, the Bible also says to "agree with them quickly" (Matt. 5:25). Wow, how many of us are willing to take the blame for something we didn't do? In doing this, I've seen it done on occasion, you silence the enemy behind the person. He is literally stunned, that there is no fight, and does not know what to do. This really works!! Say " I apologise" and ask, "is there something you can do to make it better?". 9 out of 10 times the apology will suffice, and keep in mind, this is not a method, but an act of obedience and genuine kindness.
So, be the bigger person, and receive from your Father unmerited favor for your obedience, and watch Him turn it around for your good.
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